Category Archives: Coaching

Embracing and Coping with Change

How much change have you experienced in the last year?

changeChange is routine in today’s workplace. And, no matter what you do, there is really no way to escape change.

However, you can choose how you react to it.

If you can embrace and cope with change, you’ll be in a much better position to incorporate the new elements into your existing life in a meaningful and non-aggravating manner. You’ll be seen as a flexible and adaptable team player, and this reputation can open up many opportunities.  If, however, you consistently resist change, you can come to be seen as “part of the problem,” and an example of why the change is needed.

Coping is simply the way that we think about and deal with stressful events.  

It’s often your attitude towards change that determines your emotions and your experience of it. Some people view change positively, and see it as an exciting opportunity to learn and grow. Others see change negatively, as something to fear and to avoid.

People who resist change will likely find themselves passed over for promotions, or left behind entirely as their workplace moves in the new direction. The inability to cope with change in one’s personal life can lead to great stress, and other negative physical and psychological effects as well.

Change is unavoidable; the negative life effects of change are not.  We can help.

Watson Life Services . “Because Your Mind Matters”

 

Avoiding the Stress of Overload

For too many of us, feeling anxious and overwhelmed has become the new normal. But this may just be the time you finally get a handle on your to-do list and start working—and living—at your best.

Taking on too activities can have many negative consequences, both in your professional and home life:overload

  • It can cause a high degree of stress and eventually lead you to “burn out”
  • It can lead to neglect of your personal life, with planning and activities eating into time you’d spend with family and friends, relaxing, or exercising
  • It can result in a failure to meet your core responsibilities because you’re too busy with lower priority tasks

Time-blocking and prioritization are two important keys to daily productivity.  Look at your to-do list, figure out where you have blocks of time to act on those items, and then prioritize.  Try to keep your defined “work” actions to 15 to 30 minutes each. These are the “chunks” of time where you can stay focused, minimize interruptions, and work effectively.

To help overcome a tendency to take on too much work, you should, also,  know your core responsibilities and goals.  Weigh the importance of assignments in relation to these responsibilities before agreeing to take them on.

You should also schedule your available time. Once you can see that your schedule is full, you’ll know not to accept further work.

However, it’s often difficult to say “no.” Find ways that help to buy time so that you can prepare an appropriate response without immediately taking on responsibility for a task. Also, try to ensure that if you refuse a request to take on more work to do so in a way that won’t cause offense and that doesn’t invite further discussion.

We would be glad to help you develop strategies to get control of and free up more of your time.

Watson Life Services . “Because Your Mind Matters”

Maybe you can buy Unhappiness

Life is about experiences, however so many people get so caught up in churn of acquiring material items that they forget what truly makes them happy.  Newer cars, bigger houses, the latest cool piece of electronics to hit the market are great but is it what you really need?

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Sure, the latest gadget may make you feel good for the evening, but that high is temporary, and you will be back chasing that retail high shortly after.  Toys are fun but they are not who you are.

Get out and experience the world.  Even if you can’t afford to get away, become tourist in and around your own city.  Skydive, bungee jump, go to the beach alone, take a hike on an unknown trail, go up to a complete stranger and invite them for coffee, read a book outside; there are so many things you could be doing that will enrich your life that doesn’t involve buying things.

Making your life richer is not always about getting richer in the monetary sense.  Learning a new language or skill, developing a hobby or just taking a bit more time meditate and relax can help to move you in the right direction.

If you feel that you might need help with that we are there to help.

Watson Life Services . “Because Your Mind Matters”

 

 

Easing into Change with Micro-Commitments

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Change.

Let’s not sugar coat it – change is hard (for you, for me,  for all
of us.)

To be human is to resist change. Everyone wants something different, but part of them is pushing back – BIG TIME.

So how do we overcome this “built in” resistance when a client is staring down the barrel of a huge change they are trying to bring into their life?   We do it by chunking and subdividing that change in smaller, easier changes that you can deal with more directly and easily; micro-commitments.

Committing to accomplish your entire weight loss goal in one swoop is pretty daunting, but what if we look at just loosing 3 pounds in the next two weeks?  That sounds infinitely more do-able, doesn’t it.

Once the first of these micro-goals is accomplished, momentum is established and the next piece of the goal looks much more attainable.  Then you look at the next piece and decide a realistic time frame to get that completed.

Before you know it, you are at your goal.

When you are ready to start let us know, we’re here to help!

Watson Life Services . “Because Your Mind Matters”

Be happier. It’s your choice

That may be a surprise, a new thought, or the something you most need to be reminded of.   Namely, that how you feel is  a choice. How you feel in any given moment, on a daily basis, is what makes up how happy your life is, and it is your choice.

Too many people think that feelings are something that just happen to them, like the weather just happens; outside their control.

Some people will argue that being happy in the face of unpleasant situations is fooling oneself. True, and that’s not what’s being suggested here at all.

It would truly be a shame to wait until your deathbed to realize that the amount of happiness you allowed yourself to have through the course of your life was mostly a matter of choice.

Sure, exceptions abound. We’re not talking about experiencing the death of a loved one or any other of life’s real tragedies. They happen, but they are incidents, not the whole of life. We’re talking about choosing to live with an attitude of appreciation for what one has, and choosing to have the feelings you want, instead of the ones you’ve been programmed to have by society, family, media, politicians and the like.

We can help with that.

Watson Life Services  .  Because Your Mind Matters

Are you “Intrigued” by your personal challenges?

An attitude of INTRIGUE is the necessary first step in embarking on the journey of discovery which will lead you to progress in the resolution of those challenges. It’s only with this attitude of intrigue that people can become willing to do the introspection necessary to take this journey.

The primary obstacle to developing an attitude of intrigue is the tendency to think of self-examination as equivalent to self-criticism. Self-criticism does nothing to help make forward progress where careful constructive confrontation is the only type of communication useful for moving forward.

Can you be curious and respectful in looking at yourself? It really is the only way to constructively inspect situations, habits or relationships that may be working against your progress without hindering your progress yourself.

Contact us, we’re here to help!

Watson Life Services . “Because Your Mind Matters”

Let’s resolve to choose an Intention rather than a Resolution.

An Intention is a positive directional desire grounded in a goal. It artfully recognizes the journey of change and begs the question of how an Intention is going to be supported. It is by its nature, less declarative and softer than a Resolution. Therein lies its power. An Intention opens the door for individuals and coaches to explore a desire, ask deep questions and ultimately, organically, build a support structure to explore and fuel positive change.

Let me know if you need any help.

Watson Life Services . “Because Your Mind Matters”